There are tons of strategies and tips (including on this site) to help you build confidence. It is all great information but there is so much of it that it can make your head spin. In this article I’m going to break it down to 5 really easy, yet powerful ways to improve your confidence and feel like you can take on the world.
Build Confidence With These Easy Strategies
1. Look Your Best
Taking pride in your appearance will go a long way in building confidence. It is also easy to do. You do not have to buy designer clothes or spend a ton of money at the beauty salon or barber either. All you have to do is take a little extra time each day to make sure what you have on is clean, ironed, and sharp. Think about how you feel when you are dressed nicely. You probably feel good and confident right?
Over time it’s easy to get a little lax on how we present ourselves. When we are tired, burned out, or down in the dumps, we lose interest in how we look. I’ve personally been there. I was always the guy with ironed jeans with creases (yeah I know), had my hair perfect, splashed on some cologne, the whole nine. Then I hit a point in my life where I stopped caring so much about how I appeared. I would grab any old thing from my closet, put on sandals with socks on, and went about my day. I felt crappy and didn’t feel good about myself. If this is you now, then change that around as I did. Take a little more time to look your best each day. It’s a super-easy way to build confidence.
2. Build Confidence With Body Language
Another really easy way to build confidence is by adjusting your body language. Stop slouching and stand tall. Instead of rushing your words and mumbling, speak clearly and slowly. Look people in the eye instead of at the floor. Square up with the person you are talking to. It may feel uncomfortable at first making these adjustments, but the more you do them, the easier it will become. You will also feel more confident and other people will see you as confident as well. Here are more ways to look confident.
Amy Cuddy, social psychologist, author, and speaker, says “Don’t fake it till you make it, fake it till you become it.” So even though you may not feel you are being yourself by changing your demeanor, in time you will. Amy also has an excellent Ted Talk on your body language and how it shapes who you are. Check it out below.
3. Say Daily Confidence Affirmations
You’ve heard the affirmation, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and Doggonit people like me,” by Stuart Smalley (Al Franken) on the old SNL skit. Even though this skit was hilarious, affirmations really are a powerful tool to build confidence. Be Stuart Smalley, and every morning say affirmations specifically designed to develop your confidence. Saying them is easy to do and takes little time. Here are some examples of good confidence-building affirmations:
- “I am naturally confident in all that I do.”
- “I have faith in my skills and abilities.”
- “I confidently and respectfully speak my mind.”
- “I take on any challenge that I’m faced with.”
Find two or three confidence affirmations that resonate with you, and say them every morning and throughout the day. You will begin to build confidence easily by using the power of spoken words.
4. Learn Something New To Build Confidence
Another really easy way to build confidence is to learn something new every day. Constantly work to improve your skills and your knowledge. What can you learn today that will improve your career? What can you learn today that will improve your relationship? How can you improve your finances or health? Our confidence takes a hit when we feel like we are left behind and that is extremely easy to do in this day in age. You have to be proactive and expand your mind on a daily basis. It doesn’t take much time, and it’s easy to do. Create a list of questions just like I asked earlier. Then seek to answer them on a daily basis.
5. Give Tons of Compliments
You’ve heard it before and I will say it again, to get what you want, you have to give what you want. That includes confidence. When you give sincere compliments to others it boosts their self-esteem and confidence. This will always come back around to you. You will not only feel better about who you are when you brighten someone’s day, but others will begin to compliment you as well which will work to build confidence. Of course, you never want to compliment and do for others to get something in return but it will always come back to you in a positive way.
Here are a few things to keep in mind when you compliment others:
Always be genuine when complimenting others. People can tell when you are not sincere and it will backfire.
Don’t Make It About You
When you compliment others, do it in a way that does not bring attention back to you. For instance, instead of saying, “Your input at the morning meeting was so much more interesting than mine,” say “What you had to say in the meeting was very interesting and articulate.”
Look For Things That Matter To Them
Make your compliment count. Do not compliment someone on their attire if you know they wouldn’t value that. Instead, compliment their work ethic if you know their career and effort are important to them.
If you are looking for really easy ways to build confidence then try these strategies. Look your best, adjust your body language, say daily affirmations, learn something new, and give tons of sincere compliments. If you implement these tips on a daily basis you will begin to feel confident in yourself and your abilities.
How would your life change if you had more confidence? Let us know in the comments below.